So many people come to me because they have become depleted and in many ways sad. They've spent so much of their time and energy devoted to others' wellbeing, making sure that everyone else is receiving the love they need to live and thrive. Most people have been conditioned to assume that loving yourself first is selfish, while I prefer to think that loving yourself first is self-preservation. When you are constantly giving your love out, you are doing it with some assumption that you will be getting it back and that is how you "fill your cup." This is a form of giving your power away, you can only experience love if it comes from others. This typically results in a whole lot of resentment and unmet expectations, waiting on the side of the road with a sign hoping that someone throws some love into your cup as they drive by.
How about a radical shift in thinking?
Trusting in the universe that if you love yourself first, that everyone else will be ok. If everyone loved themselves first then there would be no reliance on others for love, love would simply be something shared amongst us all. This isn't to say that you don't love others, it means that you have so much love for yourself that it is literally pouring out of your cup and filling the rest of the world around you with love. You aren't giving your love away, you are emanating it for others to experience as well. This brings all the power back into your hands, you aren't asking for love, you have it! When you have this much love you are able to make decisions that honor you, because love is power. It gives you strength to accept situations with confidence, but also respect yourself enough to know when it is time to move on.
It's a scary thing to love yourself first, but give it a try. Love yourself. Love others. Love the world.
Chelsea M Latham
When I was a kid my mom would occasionally refer to me as a Reverend, because I had the need to speak so passionately about just about everything. Little did she know that some day I would build a business upon sharing the wisdom that I am so passionate about. So here you go, here are some bits and bobs of thoughts strung together for your enjoyment.