I think it's safe to say that we are a highly indecisive society. Even when we do make the decision we struggle with staying committed to it. What is it about our culture that paralyzes us from living by our word, or even having a word to live by?
A millennia of evolution and natural selection has deemed that those who survive will get to procreate and pass on their mental, emotional and physical traits. This has instilled in humanity a very strong survival guide and even though we live in a much safer world than the cavemen did, we still have an innate drive to keep ourselves alive. A major trait behind this drive is that we do not want to stand out too much, because those who stand out are the first ones to get picked off. In modern times, those who stand out are the first ones to get ostracized and condemned.
But what does this have to do with indecision? Well, it means that although our initial reaction might be to honor who we are, we have been cultured over time to override this soulful instinct with a much more human one- to blend in and to appease. A lifetime of being told what to do and what qualities creates the "perfect life" has created a society who makes decisions based upon what is best for everyone else, not necessarily ourselves. Many of us have almost completely silenced that internal voice that speaks on behalf of who we truly are. In general there is a great lack of personal awareness created by the ego's overwhelming desire for safety and security.
Awareness of self is not to be underestimated- though I believe it has been. When you can get beyond culture and society, you will see that we are all so incredibly unique with a very different personality map, skillset and learning agenda for this lifetime. We no longer even question our own selves until we hit a major wall that takes us down to ground zero. What has happened to our self awareness? Well for starters it is a total lack of stillness and silence. Our culture values speed, progress and busy-ness. These environments do not allow much opportunity to tune in. Our days are typically spent focusing on where we were and where we want to go- how are we supposed to know who we are in the present if our energy is always in the past and future? We can only know who we are by experiencing our life- the opportunities, conflicts and relationships - then observing how we react to it. We are our own living science experiment and when we tune into this experiment we can draw the conclusions of what matters most to us, what brings us passion, what brings us peace, what our ideals and integrity are. Until we stop for a moment of silence it is hard to fully connect to this degree of awareness and we will just keep plowing forward, blindly into the future.
But it's not all over once we build up our awareness. What are we going to do with that awareness? This brings me back to my initial sentiments. We can know who we are but be afraid to act upon it because that may result in standing out and being judged. This is a misperception of karma - perceiving that our thoughts or actions have been wrong or caused harm. This misperception can quickly lead to us tying ourselves up to outdated ideas of what we should and should not have done. We literally and figuratively place handcuffs on our free will and choice, disabling our ability to trust in our inner instinct because at some point in the past we did trust and it got us into trouble.
Equally as debilitating is the fear of imperfection. What do we do if our self awareness points out our imperfections? This is another cultural belly-flop that has taken away so much from the physical experience. When and why did we ever begin to think that we are all meant to be perfect?! We are here to learn so that we may evolve in the direction of perfection. ((Please note: we are working towards perfection, we are not going to become perfect. Our ideals of perfection are what drive us to make the best decision possible. This is not society's ideals, but our own personal ideals.)) Our imperfection is our greatest gift- it gives us the opportunity to learn, to grow. What's more, our focus on being perfect is taking away from our ability to become perfect which entails the acts of learning and evolving. The more we allow our desire for safety and perfection to override our desire to honor our reason for existence, the more numb and distilled our honest sentiments will become.
We are not here to enjoy life in its perfection, we are here to experience life to the fullest: the good and the bad. Every opportunity we encounter is an opportunity to grow. I daresay that our greatest growth has come from our most challenging times both personally and society as a whole. We are not here to make right decisions every time, we are here to learn from the wrong decisions that we do make. We are not here to judge and build expectations that we will never meet, we are here to take it all in with objective curiosity so that we may raise our personal awareness and gain wisdom. When we learn to trust in the experience of this lifetime we will lose a great amount of fear in being wrong, or even worse, being ourselves. We will make decisions and stand by them, knowing that if those decisions don't support progress then we will learn a bit more about who we are so that when we face a similar decision again in the future (and you know we will), we will have the appropriate memory and tools to address it again successfully.
It's important to remember that we are here for our own personal evolution. This "personal" evolution is just that- personal and unique! Therefor, we are here to grow in accordance with our own unique blueprint, in the direction of our own unique path of success. There are so many aspects of culture, family, society that can fog over our uniqueness therefor it is our responsibility to question daily who we are vs. who we believe we should be. At the end of our lives all that matters is whether or not we lived in accordance with our own laws. How society chooses to judge us for this is society's karma, how we as individuals chose to live is our karma. The more we can move forward without judgement, guilt and regret the faster we can get to the essence of our lives: living by it, standing up for it and becoming greater because of it.
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Chelsea M Latham
When I was a kid my mom would occasionally refer to me as a Reverend, because I had the need to speak so passionately about just about everything. Little did she know that some day I would build a business upon sharing the wisdom that I am so passionate about. So here you go, here are some bits and bobs of thoughts strung together for your enjoyment.